Every child has one; those teachers they just can’t get along with.
Being a student is no cake walk, parenting is difficult and teaching isn’t
the easiest job in the world, but with a little empathy and understanding,
we really can all learn to get along.
It’s easy for students to blame teachers rather than taking responsibility
for their behavior and academic performance. This means that when they
get bad grades, their first go-to is to blame the teacher. Students can
be harsh critics so try to get a better idea of what is really going on
in the classroom before you confront the teacher.
Ask your students for examples of how the teacher didn’t help or
when they were inattentive or unfair. If you decide to talk to the teacher,
its best to keep an open mind and allow them to share their views on bad
grades or personality conflicts rather than being confrontational.
Being involved in your child’s education is the best way to form
a positive relationship with teachers. Volunteer to help in class a couple
of hours a week, help out on a field trip and always attend teacher/parent
conferences. Get involved in after-school activities and special events
so that you can see what’s really going on. This will give you better
insight and will help you to more effectively deal with the situation.
Be a good example
No matter how frustrated you feel, always be polite with your teachers
and try to resolve situations rather than making them worse. Remember
that if you are confrontational, your child may suffer the consequences.
We are all confronted with people we struggle to get along with. Perhaps
it’s a neighbor, a manager or a work colleague that you don’t
like. Teaching your child how to navigate these relationships and resolve
conflict is a wonderful life skill to have. This means you have to be
a good example so try to resolve the situation without losing your cool.
Listen carefully to your child’s complaints and express your solidarity.
Try to get a very good idea of what the problem is. If your child says:
“She hates me,” ask for more specific details. Once you have
established what the problem is, discuss possible solutions with your
child and role play scenarios. For example, if you realize that the teacher
is getting frustrated because your child is disruptive, or they aren’t
focusing, ask your child to concentrate more in class. Ask the teacher
to move them to the front of the class or away from the window so that
they have less distractions.
Try to let your child solve the problem for themselves. Learning to deal
with difficult situations is an important life lesson. Try to avoid being
confrontational with teachers; instead work together to resolve the situation.
If you see any attempt at resolution from the teacher or student, offer
appreciation and encouragement.
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