Questions to get your Teens Talking About their Day

Blog Categories

Whether they are six or sixteen, your eager questions about their school day may be met with non-committal grunts. You know you’re supposed to keep the lines of communication open, but when the conversation is one-sided you may want to throw in the towel.

Not being able to talk to your children is really frustrating. But there are ways to get them to open up that go beyond; “How was your day?”

Timing is everything

Don’t interrogate them the minute they arrive home from school. Most kids are tired and need a little decompression time. Wait until they have relaxed a little and are in a good mood. Don’t ask the same questions every day, but mix it up so that they don’t get bored with your line of questioning.

What did you have for lunch today?

This is an easy one for them to answer, and often starting with a non-personal question will help to break the ice. You can always switch things around and make it funny, for example: “Are they still serving slop for lunch?” This applies to all the suggested questions as humor can often break through those tough teen exteriors.

How is Mark?

The most important way to ensure communication lines stay open is to really listen. This is tricky because you are probably multi-tasking and have ten things on your mind, but it does help to make your kids feel you care about what they have to say. Ask about their friends and if you get; “He’s fine”, then continue the conversation by asking specific questions which follow on from previous conversations like: “Did he manage to get his assignment in on time?”

Do you have lots of homework today?

This gives you an opportunity to commiserate, and express your support for them. It also leads to many secondary questions like:

  • “What do you have to do?”
  • “How long do you think it will take?”
  • “Do you need some help with your math?”
  • “Do you want me to keep your siblings busy while you study?”
  • “How can I help you get through all of that?”

How was your test?

Keep tabs on events that are happening in their lives so that you can ask specific questions. Vague questions like: “How was school?” aren’t great conversation starters. Instead, ask about tests, assignments, social events or even things that are happening in their personal lives. That could mean asking about a fight they were having with a friend or whether they asked a girl to the dance.

Communicating with teens can be taxing when they are not in the mood to talk. Don’t get frustrated and yell at them; it only reinforces their reticence to open up. Instead, just keep trying every day and always let them know that you are available should they ever want to talk. Your patience and persistence will pay off.

More Posts Like This
  • How Parents Can Help Their Kids Get the Most Out of Online Learning

    Online learning is a different experience than traditional classroom instruction, and some students may need to make some changes to their normal academic routine in order to properly adjust. Here’s how parents can help their kids to get the most out of online learning!

    Read More
  • 5 Simple Ways to Teach Math Using Sports

    Sports are a great past-time, and getting the whole gang together to support your favorite team is a blast for the whole family! Sports can also be a great way to introduce academic concepts to kids in a fun and relatable way. Here are 5 simple ways to teach math using sports!

    Read More
  • 6 Simple Ways to Keep Your Teen Motivated to Learn Over the Summer

    Students often experience learning loss during the summer months, sometimes referred to as the “summer slide.” To help avoid this gap in academic progress, here are 6 simple ways to keep your teen motivated to learn over the summer!

    Read More