Teachers are the backbone of our education system and most of them are
patient, professional and experienced. The teaching profession is one
that is lucky enough to contain some of the most dedicated people who
take their jobs seriously. It’s the rare occasion that parents have
to deal with a teacher with whom they do not get along. It may be a philosophical
difference, a discipline issue or a clash of personality, but its best
to deal with disputes professionally and responsibly to ensure that your
student doesn’t suffer.
Keep it positive
Don’t make negative comments about teachers in front of your students.
This may cause them to lose respect for their teacher and can affect the
teacher/student relationship. Remember that your students have to see
these teachers on a daily basis, so it’s in everybody’s best
interest to work differences out amicably.
Keep it professional
If you feel emotional or angry about something a teacher has said or done,
wait until you have calmed down before you address the issue; it’s
best to keep interactions professional. It’s important to address
any differences as they arise. Leaving small issues to snowball into big
issues is not a great way of dealing with disputes. Instead, make time
to speak personally with your teacher about any minor issues and keep
the channels of communication open throughout the school term.
Teachers often have more experience with dealing with behavioral and academic
issues and they have some valuable insights into your student’s
behavior. They have a different perspective as they see the way your student
behaves in class and interacts with his or her peers. Often, parents have
skewed perspectives on what is happening in the classroom as they have
only had their student’s version of events.
When you have a problem with a teacher, it’s imperative that you
listen to what they have to say. Ensure that you understand both sides
of the story and that you give the teacher the trust and respect they deserve.
Coping with adversity
If your student is the one that doesn’t get along with his or her
teacher, then this is a great time to teach social coping techniques.
We meet people with whom we don’t get along in every social situation.
We’ve all had a boss, a co-worker or a neighbor we have not gotten
along with. Help your student to cope by teaching them how to deal with
situations that may arise. Discuss appropriate responses and role play
situations that could arise so that they are confident and prepared to
deal with situations responsibly and maturely.
While every endeavor must be made to create positive teacher-parent-student
relationships, when adverse situations occur, it’s a great opportunity
for parents to teach life skills. Work to create a positive atmosphere
for your students so that they can get the very best education. Remember
that the best way to teach life skills is to be a good example as your
students look to you for guidance on how to deal with difficult situations.